This is What a Real Woman Looks Like

By Melanie Klein
How many times have you looked at a model in a magazine or an actress on TV and thought, “Hey, that doesn’t look like me or anyone I know”? This group of students decided to talk back about the difference between media fantasy and their reality.


It is that act of speech, of “talking back,” that is no mere gesture of empty words, that is the expression of our movement from object to subject – the liberated voice.”
            --bell hooks


Let’s face it, we’re plugged into an awful lot of media. Sometimes we're aware of what we're consuming, like when we turn on the television, go to a movie or download a new song off iTunes. But much of the time it isn’t an active choice. Think about all the billboards and ads we’re subjected to without our consent. Add up the images from the voluntary and involuntary sources and you’ve got a tidal wave of images —and most don’t look anything like us or the girls we know. Several of the students in my Women and Pop Culture class decided they’d had enough-they were going to talk back to the media and tell them what “real” women look like.

What do you think? How would YOU talk back?

 

Related: Read more about the origins of the Body Collage Project.

Watch a slideshow of The Body Collage Project

Comments

idecredico's picture

This video definitely empowered me. I feel like a majority of girls, teenagers, and adults have felt exactly the same way these women have felt at one point. We are constantly bombarded with fake images of women that even if we try to escape them it is almost impossible. Being able to ignore them and not compare yourself is an incredibly difficult task that I know I am still working on. As one of the women said-even if you know the images are fake you still can't help but wonder why you don't look like that. It really saddens me the amount of energy we put on looks and I hope this video and article empowers other women as much as it did for me. Thank you for sharing this.
Ryan M's picture

The media definitely plays an active role in everybody life. There is media being depicted everywhere, and the messages being sent are most aimed towards the insecurities of women. Women learn to compare themselves to the models placed on the cover of many magazines and television shows, leading them to a life of sadness. Women become preoccupied with their physical appearance, which leads to neglect other aspects of their lives, such as education and careers. Many women do not know that the images they see on television are photo shopped, which leads to discredit their own appearance. Women are essentially bombarded these ideas on a daily basis.
yaghoubi.mahsa333's picture

Mahsa Yaghoubi Watchin the video really made me not realize that i am not alone, but it also made me more aware about alot of the problems that ive been having not just with myself but with the way i would look at others and judge them. I have an unrealisitc way of looking at myself and viewing myself, and before i would think that i am having these issues because i wasnt in shape, but when i watched the video and saw how the ladies talk about how the magazines and media made them feel, i could completely relate.
erinkaitel's picture

I think that these young women are taking a good look at the media and letting the media know that they do not like what they see. I think that every point that is made in this video is a very strong and valid point. I wish the media featured women like these brave women who stand up to patriarchal oppression because these women are the true models of our generation.
OliviaS's picture

This video shed light on the multitude of images being marketed to women. They are far from real because even the very models posing in these photo shoots don't look like that. The images we see in magazines, TV shows, movies, and on billboards are all highly distorted using photoshop to create a woman that doesn't exist. It was heartbreaking to hear these women talk about some of the extremes they have put themselves through to conform to this ideal image. Although there have been times when I've looked at magazines and felt insecure about parts of my body, I'm very fortunate that for the most part my focus has been on looking and feeling healthy. I probably haven't weighed myself since middle-school because getting depressed over a stupid number that means absolutely nothing is ridiculous. I have never gone by how much I weigh but how good I feel. It's honestly a wonderful concept but unfortunately, the media has made it extremely difficult for women to feel good about the way they look. I honestly hope for the sake of women all over the world that the media starts accurately depicting what a true woman looks like.
Kelly Olson's picture

I love this video! It was so refreshing that everyone was so honest about everything... I found two things particularly interesting and that was when this one woman said that the media does not only tell ME how to look, but it tells others how to view me. And then she also mentioned that she takes it in even if she does not want to consciously. Which I feel is the two important points in this video, the fact that we are doing something we really do not want and it forces us to even view others in a way that we do not chose ourselves. I hope that a bright future is ahead of us and that people will realize that they should love themselves just the way they are (I know I still have some way to go).
Negar A's picture

Presenting unrealistic images of women in mass media, puts men under pressure as well. They are pressured to choose women according to the values set by media. Men would not be satisfy with women who could potentially be perfect for them just because they are not perfect by society's standards.
LisaJ.'s picture

I found this video to be very "empowering." It was fascinating to see "real" women who actually looked healthy and everyone looked different in their own way. It was also a breath of fresh air to see women who weren't all (white, skinny, blond, etc...), what I normally see in magazines. I loved the rawness of the video, and the way it made me personally feel after I watched it. I felt inspired, I was finally able to see actual women, who in many ways looked like me, and were proud to be themselves, comfortable in their own skin. Thanks for such a meaningful message!
LisaJ.'s picture

I found this article to be not only empowering, but I loved the rawness of it... The FREEDOM to do you! After watching it, I felt a sense of empowerment because I finally was able to see women who looked like me to some degree. There was a variety of women, shapes and sizes… Not all white, skinny, blond etc, which is what I normally see in magazines. It was an actually a breathe of fresh air to see healthy women who felt good about themselves, fighting back against the mainstream media, and expressing what they would like to see…. Real people! Thanks so much for the meaningful piece of work.
Phoenix Love's picture

@LisaJ I absolutely enjoyed hearing real life women declaring their beauty to be more powerful than the media's perception of an ideal woman. I'm also glad the video empowered you to relate to real women rather than a "fembot". This was such a great class project and more schools across the country should partake in these types of projects.
MarinaV's picture

I try to not watch Television and I do not read magazines, yet I am bombarded by advertisements which more often than not display "beautiful" women. I do compare myself to these women seen in the media yet lately I've began comparing myself to women I see in real life, walking down the street, at school, etc. The fact that i'm still comparing myself to other women and not just happy with who I am and accepting the fact that we are all different shows that i've been deeply affected by the media and the images i've been exposed to that are supposed to define beauty.
bre.elliott's picture

AubreanaE: This video proves to women like me that I’m not the only one who has done these ridiculous and embarrassing things to become the "ideal" women. This is so empowering to know that there are other women in the world who just want to be themselves without having to be compared to the "ideal" women! After watching this video I ask myself, why I went through all that [nonsense] and still knew the "ideal" women was photo shopped and unrealistic. I love this video and the women featured in this video are REAL WOMEN, and should be on the cover of a magazine because I believe that beauty is natural and cannot be measured by shape, size, or color.
Brianda B.'s picture

I couldn’t help but agree all throughout the video. The women in the video have a really good valid point when they say that regular people aren’t being well represented in these magazines nor in mainstream media. It’s very unusual to see someone that doesn’t fit everything our society idolizes on the front cover of any magazine. Although it’s rare to see someone like so, I remember coming across a mainstream media magazine (can’t really recall the exact magazine) and seeing Gabourey Sidibe the star of “Precious” posing for the cover. I couldn’t believe it. I was completely taken aback. At the time I was probably 15, and I didn’t know how to classify my feelings. I was always use to seeing a thin light skin model on the cover. Now that I’ve developed a perspective lens on the topic I’m glad that she was on the cover and that slowly but surely our efforts are having an impact on the media and we’ll begin seeing more and more people on the covers of magazines who truly represent a real woman.
Nancy N's picture

These women are completely right. Our lives are bombarded with images and messages through the media. It's everywhere! Personally, I agree with every women in the video. "Real" women do not look like what the media portrays them to appear as. As a women working in the beauty industry, I am surprised to see how many women I come across everyday who are insecure with their looks or are desperate to achieve a certain look they have seen. The downside for these women is that they are trying to achieve a look or image that isn't even real. Even the celebrities I have seen in person sadly don't appear as perfect as they are in the media. Of course, there are women who may be "beautiful", depending on one's preference, but very rarely will we ever come across one who is absolutely perfect -- even for the beautiful ones. Nobody is perfect, or ever will be. I used to be more insecure, but now I am more comfortable with myself. Of course as these ladies mentioned in the video, seeing images of models may upset us, but I figure it's probably slightly normal. As long as one doesn't take it to the extreme and do something that will cause themselves harm. I hope more women will realize the truth and appreciate beauty in all different sizes and looks!
traciv's picture

I think that this video should be shown everywhere. It is really important for women to know that no matter what they look like they are still beautiful in there own way. I know for me, I compare myself to every little thing I see in magazines, bilboards, and even regular women. I think that we need to have more shows on TV and advertisements to really stress the fact that we are beautiful the way we are. Being grown up in a world were you are surrounded by this it becomes the "norm" for a young girl to believe that being pretty is to look like barbie. This needs to stop before women completely destroy who they truly are and become what culture wants them to become.
UrielG's picture

Seeing this video reminds us that we should look for the real things in life rather then the superficial things, that are mainly spread by the media. Unfortunately we live in a society that women from a very young age are encouraged by their surroundings to do whatever they can in order to look like the "model from the magazine" . The truth is that "the women from the magazine" is NOT real. She had been transformed for hours in front of a mirror by group of professionals that basically make her look like she does before she gets infront of the camera. Furthermore, after the models have their pictures taken, they are being photoshoped. Women are relating themselves to images that do not exist. Instead of focusing on what true and important in life, many women just focus themselves on the idea that they will never be valued until they look like "the model from the magazine". That idea is extremely wrong, and has to be fixed, since women turn self conscious about them selves. This video is a great encouragement for those women.
JoanneS's picture

The first time I watched this video I was inspired. Everything started to make sense for me because I when I shop, my decisions are influenced by the images that surround me. The media has bombarded our personal lives with unrealistic images of men and women without our consent. Moreover, they're targeting children as young as eight years old to pursue diets and maintain a skinny shape. Like Melanie said in class, the media is committing child abuse by cultivating the minds of young people towards the framework revolved around classicism, racism, homophobia, anorexia, and etc. It's essential for something to be done to put an end to this toxic phenomenon.
neeloufar mahrouyan's picture

I loved this video!!!! These girls couldn't have said it any better. I agree with them that when I see the media whether its TV, magazines or billboards I always analyze these women and compare myself to them. I unconsciously look at every part of their body and imagine myself with their body. Although I know that these images are false representations of what the "ideal" woman is I can't help but to feel worse about myself. It is important to understand that these woman are not "real" women that are fake women created for the pleasure of men. It is impossible to create specific characteristics that define what the real women is. The truth is that we are all real women.
Marjani S's picture

I can't agree more with this video. Media portrays women as something that most women are clearly not and this has caused great insecurities within tons of women. I have my moments where I look at myself and am not happy with the way that I look. But then I remember there is no way that I can look like the women in the media and that I am just beautiful in a different way, my own way. I now try to focus on being happy and beautiful in my body. It helps when I know that most women don't like the media women and that there are other women that I can actually relate to out there in the world. So i'm just going to forget what they media says and be beautiful in my own way, just like every women in the world should do as well.
idecredico's picture

These women are right in everything they are saying. It is exhausting and costly to always try to measure up to the standards of the media instead the media needs to change their view on what real women are. Even if we try and escape the media, it is everywhere! It is inspiring to hear women talk back to the media. The fact about eight year old girls dieting is extremely frightening, not to mention all the facts and statistics. Real is beautiful!
KeniaC.'s picture

Videos like these aren't out in public because the media knows exactly what it's doing. We are being influenced by them to believe what is good and what isn't good. In other words what is perfect and what is not. We seek to have the perfect body because that's what seems to be acceptable to everyone. Instead of people judging the false images we are being thrown at, mostly everyone decides to judge us real women and seek to have what these fake women in the media are portrayed to have. What everyone needs to learn to do is accept themselves as they are and love who they really are. We worry more about what people are going to be saying about us then what we feel about ourselves. Sometimes we leave our physical, psychological, and emotional well-being aside and do anything possible to fit the ideal body image. Seeing all these REAL women speak out influences me to do so as well. We all stay quiet to the things that are in the reach of our hands. People want us and expect us to be one way when in reality no one is perfect.
Nicole S.'s picture

This video is absolutely brilliant! I commend all of the women who were able to share their views about this sensitive topic. Even though we are all different, this video makes me realize how we can all be concerned about the same thing, body image issues. It also makes me think about my own insecurities and how the media is constantly reinforcing them and making me feel bad about myself. Reading about the percentage of young girls who are dieting at the age of 8 is quite alarming. I have many young girl cousins, and just the thought of any of them putting themselves in danger like this at such a young age, makes me sick.
Phoenix Love's picture

Wow! It's so amazing how much feedback this video is receiving! I'm really glad that everyone feels so empowered and encouraged by this video!
Diana G's picture

This video shocked me. I felt very uncomfortable and sad when I saw the really thin girls and the percentage of girls that are trying to meet society expectations. Yet, at the sametime I loved it because it hit's the right points of why women should love themselves and it shows what a "real women" looks like.
jennifersetiawan's picture

Wow! This video is really great and it definitely speaks for how I feel about media's distortion of real women and how they look, act, feel, and think. Also, the fact that real women everywhere feel the same dissatisfaction about their bodies and looks surely indicates that the media is playing a game with us women that perpetually keeps us "in need" of more beauty products, more gym memberships, better clothes, new hair, more anti-aging skin care, and on. More videos like this one should be out there to be shared and to raise consciousness about the truth and to empower women! - Jennifer S
Samanta K's picture

What do you think? How would YOU talk back? I would love to see REAL women! As a girl in the video puts it:"Girls that have some meat on them". I like to eat! Hell, I love it! And it would be fantastic if I could stop feeling guilty when having an extra piece of cake. Not knowing every calorie count and diet book out there. If I could see real women, being shown in mainstream media, I would feel less self conscious. Would compare myself less. Or, if comparing myself, I would look in the mirror with a positive message for once! I want to see diversity, different shapes, looks, colors. A reflection of reality, which would not put me down. The problem with advertisements is, you can't escape them! Even waiting for the bus in LA, exposes you to so many messages, all of them telling you the same thing: You are not this, you are not that. You are far, far from "perfect". I am depressed. Where's the cake?!
joshberu's picture

The media sets up impossible goals and profits as we chase them. The interesting thing is that I believe that deep down everyone knows that these ideals are impossible to reach. However, since there is not enough awareness and open communication between people, we all have this part of us that deep down believes we might have a chance of fitting the media's mold.
ChloeShenassaWS10Scholars's picture

This video is great. It really helps bring to light the difference between real women and the media created images of "real" women. The media pushes this idea of a "real" anorexic, sexualized, woman constantly. If I could talk back I would ask all those people who create these ads to take pictures of themselves and see if they look at all like the images they are trying to promote and force on us!
ashoomer's picture

Avital S.: I believe that we do not realize how big of an effect the images we are recieving leave on us. We unconsciously take them all in and apply them to ourselves. I would talk back by saying stop making people hate themselves and their bodies. As well as, the images you show me are not the ones your consumer, like me, want to see.
Doreen C's picture

I never realized the strong effect the media has on women. We are cultivated without even realizing. The media shows celebrities who are all photo-shopped and full of make-up. The media is showing a fantasy world, rather than the real world. We try so hard to fit in a fantasy world, where it is not even possible. We can spend a whole life-time, but we will never achieve the fantasy look. I would tell the Media that they need to show what "real" women look. Beauty can be achieved without all the Photoshop and make-up.
Idor E's picture

I think that it is ridiculous how the media displays as well as has an effect on women. The media causes many young women to have eating disorders because they feel the need to be perfect and in shape as they see women on TV. This video helps both me and others learn and understand the true beauty of a women without all of the makeup, lighting, and Photoshopping used to change their look and beauty.
DianaE's picture

This just goes to show you how large a role media has on us without us even realizing it. We think we are just watching a show for entertainment but in the process we are actually being influenced on how we should look and act. The media has become so powerful that it is hard to realize what exactly it's message is.
JoanaK's picture

I do agree the points these women are making in the video. Minorities are most of the time left out from the media especially when talking about the image of the “perfect” woman. I do find myself questioning my body image while seeing women in media as well which is very scary. Yet I dislike the fact of women pictured as being “sexy/ sexually available” in the media. I believe this is yet another way of pleasing male dominated society. Women are special in so many more ways. Why don’t we see women who work double shifts (regular job and at home) on the cover of a magazine to which many can relate? This video encouraged me to make better choices in life when it comes to consuming beauty products or try to make me look certain way.
Joshua G's picture

I enjoyed this clip. I can see how the media plays a huge role in the lives of all. The messages sent by the media especially make women feel insecure. The images only teach women how o look a certain way; not how to live the life of their full to its potential. Women aim to achieve bodies that have been edited to perfection and can become depressed by not achieving that. Our world is unfortunately being taken over by the media.
BridgetT's picture

I would tell the media that being 117 pounds at 5'11" is excruciatingly unhealthy. I would tell the media that I'd rather live a longer life than spend a short-lived one conforming to the media's image of a "real woman". I am 122 pounds myself at 5'4" and have NEVER been called out as overweight at the doctor's office. While taking a foreign language class last semester, my classmates and I were practicing our numbers by asking each other our weight. Many students were ashamed to ask the females about their weight because they were afraid that anything over 120 pounds would be insulting. This just goes to show how much women are concerned about their weight. Little do they know that they are in perfect shape and that they are fine the way they are.
JohnT's picture

Wow. " In 1970 the average age of a girl who started dieting was 14; by 1990 the average dieting fell to 8." The media affects girls as young as 8 which is ridiculous. Women in the media like celebrities or models that are photoshopped to FIT the "perfect woman"are products of these ads. The reality is, people aren't perfect, especially in the media. Instead of being on a diet to fit the standards of the media, people should come to the realization of how their beauty is already perfect enough.
Marine A's picture

I never realized how much I compare myself to the women in magazines unconsciously until after watching this video. It' just something that happens. Most of the time I look at the women in the magazines and what they are wearing and think to myself that, that outfit would never fit me like that. It wasn't until recently that some magazines started to feature celebrities whose photos were not photoshopped in magazines. unfortunately, the damage has been done. You can't tell women and show them that this is the ideal women (having skinny tall models in photos) and then turning around and saying oh never mind, you look beautiful the way you are. I'm happy to see more and more women accept who they are and learn to love themselves. - Marine A
misslbooker's picture

@ Marine A, I did my master's research on how women unconsciously compare themselves with these unrealistic idealized societal images, images that society had made the standard of beauty. However, by finding beauty with the real women we see everyday and ourselves we can combat these images
Julia C.'s picture

This video brought up some great points about the expectations that women face to live up to this beauty ideal that is bombarded on us by the media. There is a cookie cutter ideal that we are expected to be even if we aren't tall and 115 pounds we are still expected to look like models. SInce so many of us are not anywhere close to that it just reinforces our insecurities, and our unworthiness dictated by the media. How much control it has over us to make us feel so self conscious and hurt our self esteem like nothing else. On top of being as beautiful as expected by the media, we also have to live up to the male fantasy to score and keep a man. What bull the message it is sending to all women out there. We are all beautiful in our own way. We are all special and different and wonderful in our own way. The media is missing that. There would be a lot less pain if that message was sent across.
ana1987's picture

This video was very inspriring to watch. It depicted women today in a real world setting, something we dont see too much of in the media. I completely agree with the fact that most of the media we are exposed to is involuntary and that we should be more proactive as women by trying to make a difference by speaking up about what the media should portray. Women come in all colors, shapes and sizes and the media only shows us one image and makes you think that that is what you should look like. In my opinion, it is all a false misconception aided to make money for these companies trying to sell products. Thankfully I have learned that now many new online websites are striving to challenge culturally imposed standards of beauty and to provide an oasis for women sick of being told that somehow, whether your eyelashes are too thin or your hair is the wrong texture or your thighs are too fat, you are not okay the way you are. These sites counter the messages of mainstream media with information about the advertising industry, the risks of seeking physical perfection, and the profits made off women’s insecurities. Using humor these sites challenge the tyranny of body obsession, which I think is a great idea. Now more than ever women should use their voice to bring about a positive body image and address what real women look like in order to make a difference in the media.
KammiraB's picture

Very good video. And it's true, you don't notice you compare yourself with the models in the media. Its sad that to be a "real" woman its mostly based on a woman's looks. We have to be super skinny, tall, and light skin to be aproved by this media we live with everyday. The media doesn't talk about the woman's personality and what she does for the society. If she doesn't look a certain way, then she is considered not to be a "real" woman. Examples of Real women are the ones in this video not the models that have to be really skinny and have had platic surgery.
Marianna B's picture

After watching the video on “ This is what a real women look like”, really opened up my eyes not to stress over my body as much as I do. The media has so much power over regular women around the world. These images we see on television and ads are never really the way that person looks like. We have to consider everything these days are either being photo shopped or pictures are taken at a certain angle to make sure the image comes out perfect. I have to admit it, I am obsessed with media, and want to be one of those girls who look perfect, but I have to understand as much as I try I will never be good enough. The images that are being sold to us are almost impossible to compare with, and we need to be happy with the way we look. I myself have starved myself, taken diet pills, exercised without eating, and used cleansing methods just so I can loose an additional 5 pounds. I feel like women’s weight has become a big issue in our society and women just like myself need to realize it is ok to look curvy. The video has showed me that there are women all over the world who struggle with this matter, but as a group we need to realize we are what real women look like.
neel12's picture

Interesting information. Many times we feels like we should look like a celebrities or actress in TV. But here the Women and Pop Culture class decided they’d had enough-they were going to talk back to the media and tell them what “real” women look like. The real ot natural beauty is most important and there are number of skin care products available in the nature to make the skin beautiful. http://www.womenhealthcenter.net/articles/beauty-skin-care
neel12's picture

This is really very good chance to take an tips from experts about hoe to take care of our skin and make it more beautiful. Skin Care Tips
Salina G's picture

Seeing the images of models who are completely skin and bones disgusts me. I don't see anything attractive about it. But because it doesn't affect me doesn't mean it will not affect my five year old daughter. These women are pressured to look a certain way. These women want to belong, feel accepted, feel what they think is beautiful because some specific person or a group of people tell them so. If it is taught, the person will learn. Day after day and minute after minute we give in and buy just to dress and look a certain way because some celebrity said so. Why? What is it about these people makes them so great? Because they have money, popularity, and more money. Why do we care? Should we care? No, and it starts with me to believe that I am beautiful the way I am and no one and/or any celebrity, who pays to have their body look a certain way, should make me feel different. Looking at these women, I too get angry, not because I want to look like them, but because there are starving children in this nation and world that do not get paid for looking anorexic while these women are while being told this is the ideal look. Very sad to know that people care more about making money by making someone feel worthless.
as781418's picture

By viewing “The Body Collage Project,” it was really inspiring how this project was well done deliver to me how it was meaningful to me in every aspects being a women of color. For example, I can relate to every female that was in the project since I have faced similar issues as them. For example, I know in my past, I have many diets for me to fit into society. Yet, until time day, I am considered overweight, being bullies although my childhood, but as of this day, I have learn to loved myself in every way. I know my appearance might not be what society may consider being “Acceptable” but I know people cannot judge my feelings and what’s inside me that makes me beautiful. Seeing the images of models that are entirely skinny and bones disgusts me and makes me sad at the same time. For example, I really don’t find these women being extremely hot attractive. At times, I find that in today’s society, people judge skinny people and judge people that have curves, but at the end of the day, they really don’t know what an “ideal body” looks like. I find it being extremely sad how in the beginning of the video, I see the 5 year old girls caring about their weight already. This then comes a trend at such a young age that girls are becoming aware of their weight that leads them to have surgeries when they become older. For example, I have a 7 year old cousin that cares about what people think about her wearing different kinds of outfits to school. Not only my cousin is barely in elementary school, but her mother tells my 7 year old cousin to not play with the other little girls in her school since she doesn’t want to see her 7 year old daughter dirty. Not only this shows how many women are being pressures at a young age, but it pressure women to be looking extra skinny when they become older. Then, after they become older, some women could actually afford or may borrow money to have implants or have different kinds of surgery for them to look “good” in their life. This then demonstrates how these women in the video want to belong, accepted, and know what to see beautiful feels like. At last, I give props for these women to explain how they have felt throughout life, or are feeling right now since for a lot of women, it is hard to explain what they have felt or they are not feeling accepted. I believe every woman is beautiful in their own unique way, and for these reason, women should never be judge on their appearance, but what really matters, is what’s inside of themselves.
reality.hitsharder's picture

Women are told to look a certain way all of the time. If women were supposed to look like these models in magazines and television then society would see that in everyday women. On top of exercising, hair stylists, makeup artists and dieticians, models and famous stars are photoshopped before even put into magazines. If I were a star I would be extremely insulted if the people who took photos of me wanted to photoshop me to look like I was someone else. The women in the video were equally different but all were women. Why can't the media portray all types of women? If they did so many public and social issues would go down tremendously.
Jose R. Lopez's picture

As one of your students, I have to say that this is the best video I have seen that illustrates your lectures. Additionally, this video also advocates an action plan that I find interesting. I have learned that media exposure cultivates the “ideal” body image by inseminating ideas on what men and women should look like and behave: men as big, muscular, aggressive and dominant, women as sexy, skinny, and subordinate. Now, I don’t believe the media is going anywhere, come on, we live in a capitalist society, and although there is nothing wrong with advertisement, I hate the way things are advertised by tapping into our emotions (especially women). This is one of the reasons I like the video’s action plan, “less media exposure”.
DeniseF's picture

This is what real women looks like; it would be nice that the media would actually portray the image of real women who are of color, have curves, are tall, short, small and big. Because this is what are real women looks like and we should be able to relate to one another and love and accept our bodies, instead of trying to change it in to something unrealistic and unattainable. We would prevent so many eating disorders, low self-esteem, plastic surgeries, and so many other things women do in order to look like the ideal women who in reality does not exist. Imagine that we all looked the same how boring, we should be proud and celebrate that everyone is different, being different is good. I know that it is hard to change our mindset when we live in a society where all the images of the ideal women is splatter everywhere we look and turn, but we should be conscious into realizing that the women on the billboard is not real, not even the model looks that way, she has been Photoshop so many times in order to look perfect. We cannot hide any of these images or run away from them but we can be conscious and realize that they are not real. We are beautiful and real just the way we are!
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I found this video, along with other ones like this, to be very helpful in changing the way I look at and judge myself. Like the girls in the video, I think many women can relate. The media is constantly portraying the same kind of women in which a very few percentage of females actually look like. This is very harmful to women and men because people begin to actually believe this is how females should look like. Before taking women studies I had no clue that the pictures of women were retouched, photo shopped, or combined with other women. I actually thought that a huge majority of women looked this way. Thankfully, I took this class and can finally stop beating up on myself like I use to. Now when I look at pictures I am aware and feel a little better about myself. Media is especially harmful to females. What is horrible is that we couldn’t even emit advertisements from our lives even if we wanted to. I really think that the media needs to undergo a revolution and start implementing everyday women into the circulation. It wouldn't do any more harm to women than what is being done right now.

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