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cheydrew7's picture

hi im cheyenne! me and my family have been really distant lately because of my eating problem... and they say i am underweight. i havent been able to notice myself that i had a problem, my friends and boyfriend kept telling me chey you gotta eat! and i was like....dont i? then i started thinking more and more and became confused and noticed I DO HAVE A PROBLEM! but i need advice about my new to this lol i dont know how it works yet:P but yeah im slowly in recovery, and i want to get better but its easier said than done.

cmysko's picture

Hi Cheybo7. First, welcome to Proud2Bme! Good for you for recognizing that you have a problem. That's not an easy thing to do. Eating disorders can be really confusing problems! It sounds like your family and bf really care about you and they want to help. They're worried that you're not eating enough, but it's also important to know that these issues aren't just about food. They're really about what's going on with you on the inside too. The way you feel about yourself and your life. Is there a counselor at school youand your family could talk to. You can also call the National Eating Disorders Association Helpline. They have lots of good info for families too (800)931-2237.

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Phoenix Love's picture

Hi Cheybo7! Glad to see that you're open to tell us about a little bit about your personal life with your family and other close relationships. The best reminder I could give you on this road to recovery/ discovery of self-identity, is to know that your family and loved ones are on your side. They care about you so much that they can recognize your eating habits. They see that there is a problem and are worried about the dangers you are slowly entering. Just like Cmysko said, "It's also important to know that these issues aren't just about food." Any type of distorted eating pattern can lead to serious physical harm as well as psychological damage. Having either of these can lead to a less quality of life. You are supposed to live life to the fullest with no chains holding you down! Don't be afraid to travel every corner of the world and be sure to leave no stone unturned on your journey. I hope that you find the answers you are looking for from us and the other Proud2Bme members who are on the same journey as you.
toberecovered's picture

Recently, ive become more open to the fact that i may be gay. Ive talked about it openly with my therapist, and she thinks it may be a cause of my eating disorder (hiding who i really am for so long). Ive only slightly touched upon it with my family, but i dont think that they support it or are accepting of the idea. I dont know if i should start up a discussion or leave it be. What do you think? And if i start a conversation, what should i say?
Kati's picture

Hey Toberecovered, It's exciting to hear how much you've learned about yourself on your journey to recovery! Recovery is all about learning who you are without the mask of your eating disorder and then learning how to love and embrace that person inside of you. It takes a significant amount of courage to admit to yourself that you might be different in any way, let alone in your sexuality. Struggling with the idea that you may not be accepted can make that even more difficult. Ultimately the decision of when and how to talk to your family and friends should be your own. It sounds like you have a really great therapist who is helping you to continuously learn more about yourself. Talking to her about how you may want to approach the issue with your family could be helpful. Remember that you don't have to make a decision overnight. Life is a journey just as much as recovery is. You have all the time that you need and you'll always have support here. Maybe some other Proud2bme member's have come out as gay to their family too and could share their experiences?
gymgirl's picture

I have had an ed for over 4 years and I really want to talk to my parents about it so I can get help, but I don't know how. They freak out everytime I try and I just want to stop lying to them and start telling them the truth again. What should I do?
Kristine3's picture

I am so glad that you are open to sharing your experience, the first step toward recovery is admitting that you have a problem which is the bravest thing that you can do.
I can relate to your experience in that I have struggled with an eating disorder for seven years! For me, it was really hard to open up to my parents because, at the time, we had no idea about what was happening to me. Eating disorders were not talked about openly back then, and therefore, I felt so confused and alone in my struggles. My parents and I went into treatment completely clueless, but, the more we learned together, the better the outcome of my recovery was.
At first, my parents were scared to admit that I had a problem that was so serious because they cared about me so much, and therefore, it was hard talk with them because they would always seem to avoid the subject all together. But, once I was in treatment, we all began to understand the disorder more, and with much patience, dedication, hope, and love, we were able to conquer it together.
It is important that you see a professional about this and make sure that your parents and your family are involved in your recovery process. Relationships are the key to recovery.

sharon77's picture

Hi Gymgirl! First off, kudos for you for acknowledging the situation and realizing that it is important to tell your parents what you are going through.The best thing to do is to find a time when your parents are calm and level-headed, and sit down with them. You can slowly broach the subject by telling them you respect them and value their advice, and then tell them you have been struggling with an E.D. They may be shocked--as you've mentioned, it's been going on for over 4 years--so be prepared for that. Or, you might actually find they have suspected something all along! However, being open with your parents is the best thing to do, as they can assist you in finding a treatment professional and can help you on your way to can also feel free to call the National Eating Disorder Association Helpline (800-931-2237) , or checking out our website where you can find a ton of information, including on seeking treatment. Best of luck on your road to recovery and stay strong!
Goddes64's picture

My family contastly encourage me to lose weight.My sister may have a problem too. She is obsessive with losing weight even those she look skinny.

carolinewarren's picture

Hehehe. My sister is also same. She looks skinny even then she want to lose weight.

brittanyposey's picture

@Goddes64 Do you have someone trustworthy to talk with about your family's treatment of your weight, and your sister's preoccupation with her own weight? It's so tricky to deal with and love our families sometimes, especially when their advice is contrary to what is best for our individual selves. Have you thought about seeing a counselor to talk about it? There is no shame in that, at all.

Goddes64's picture

I am actually see a consular ,but they do not specialize in eating disorders. I also told someone on trevorchat. Trevorchat is an online hotline.

brittanyposey's picture

@Goddes64 Have you shared with your counselor the pain you're experiencing relating to your eating disorder? Your counselor may have some resources that could be helpful in seeking recovery and support. Also, have you tried any of the sources here?:


Hang in there, Sophie.

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