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Truth in Advertising: Giving Up "Supposed To"

By Crystal Bonilla--Growing up in a Colombian household taught me that the single most important things in my life were to be beautiful enough for a smart, rich man to like me and to keep my sexuality strapped down for the sake of a fabricated virginity everyone was more concerned about than I was.

My definition of what beauty could mean, or could possible mean to me, was warped in the environment I grew up in. Every woman around me (including my mother) was caught up in a constant battle to stay beautiful always and forever. I learned early on that beauty could grant a girl or a woman almost everything and anything if they just gave in, smiled when they were told to, acted “sexy,” and conformed to the male desire. Of course I gave into it in my early teen years. How could I not? My own mother pressured me about my body and weight and what it was “supposed to” look like. For years I struggled with who I was and how I could become the perfect girl with the perfect brain AND body to please my mother and the other woman in my family who criticized my image. I remember when I couldn’t do it anymore and I became angry with my incessant failure to fulfill the ideal package. Ultimately, I was disillusioned with my family and myself for allowing others—regardless of their kinship or not—to regulate the way I should be.

I spent most of my younger years worrying so much about how my own image didn't match the ones I was repetitively shown. That's why I believe it is so important to look critically at these images. That is a concrete example of what feminism aims to do--to make us feel genuinely good about ourselves, our lives, and the lives of others. It reveals the reality of what it means to exist in such a polarized world full of the white-male-corporate norm of photoshopped images, images that present an unattainable ideal for both women and men.

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What can you do RIGHT NOW?

1. Take it to Twitter. Use the #TruthinAds hashtag to share your support of healthier, more realistic media!

2. Tell your members of Congress that this issue matters to you. Ask them to join the National Eating Disorders Awareness Caucus. These lawmakers will be working to support healthier media and eating disorder awareness at a federal level.

Zury Chavez is a 23 year old Los Angeles native who is currently attending Santa Monica College. She has worked with the ERA Education Project (www.erauniversity.com) and recently began blogging for Piece Magazine based in Southern Los Angeles (www.piecemagsocal.com). She is majoring in media studies with a minor in Women's Studies and is very interested in activism and community organizing.

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What can you do RIGHT NOW?

1. Take it to Twitter. Use the #TruthinAds hashtag to share your support of healthier, more realistic media!

2. Tell your members of Congress that this issue matters to you. Ask them to join the National Eating Disorders Awareness Caucus. These lawmakers will be working to support healthier media and eating disorder awareness at a federal level.

Zury Chavez is a 23 year old Los Angeles native who is currently attending Santa Monica College. She has worked with the ERA Education Project (www.erauniversity.com) and recently began blogging for Piece Magazine based in Southern Los Angeles (www.piecemagsocal.com). She is majoring in media studies with a minor in Women's Studies and is very interested in activism and community organizing.

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What can you do RIGHT NOW?

1. Take it to Twitter. Use the #TruthinAds hashtag to share your support of healthier, more realistic media!

2. Tell your members of Congress that this issue matters to you. Ask them to join the National Eating Disorders Awareness Caucus. These lawmakers will be working to support healthier media and eating disorder awareness at a federal level.

Zury Chavez is a 23 year old Los Angeles native who is currently attending Santa Monica College. She has worked with the ERA Education Project (www.erauniversity.com) and recently began blogging for Piece Magazine based in Southern Los Angeles (www.piecemagsocal.com). She is majoring in media studies with a minor in Women's Studies and is very interested in activism and community organizing.

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- See more at: http://proud2bme.org/node/594#sthash.GqC3TGDb.dpuf

What can you do RIGHT NOW?

1. Take it to Twitter. Use the #TruthinAds hashtag to share your support of healthier, more realistic media!

2. Tell your members of Congress that this issue matters to you. Ask them to join the National Eating Disorders Awareness Caucus. These lawmakers will be working to support healthier media and eating disorder awareness at a federal level.

Zury Chavez is a 23 year old Los Angeles native who is currently attending Santa Monica College. She has worked with the ERA Education Project (www.erauniversity.com) and recently began blogging for Piece Magazine based in Southern Los Angeles (www.piecemagsocal.com). She is majoring in media studies with a minor in Women's Studies and is very interested in activism and community organizing.

Read more Truth in Advertising posts

- See more at: http://proud2bme.org/node/594#sthash.GqC3TGDb.dpuf

What can you do RIGHT NOW?

1. Take it to Twitter. Use the #TruthinAds hashtag to share your support of healthier, more realistic media!

2. Tell your members of Congress that this issue matters to you. Ask them to join the National Eating Disorders Awareness Caucus. These lawmakers will be working to support healthier media and eating disorder awareness at a federal level.

Zury Chavez is a 23 year old Los Angeles native who is currently attending Santa Monica College. She has worked with the ERA Education Project (www.erauniversity.com) and recently began blogging for Piece Magazine based in Southern Los Angeles (www.piecemagsocal.com). She is majoring in media studies with a minor in Women's Studies and is very interested in activism and community organizing.

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