What would you do?

What do you do when you find yourself caught in a triggering situation? For example, today one person told me he used to be n% body fat, and all these diet things he does.....and another person showed me a before-after picture of a woman who had lost weight. I usually walk away feeling bad about myself after these scenarios. Like everyone else is trying to get smaller while I'm struggling to block out the ED voices that tell me to compete with them. Does anyone have any advice for what I can do when I find myself in a awkward place like this?

Sklarjennifer's picture

Hi- Thank you so much for sharing. I can totally relate and sometimes catch myself doing the same.  When you are looking at people photos like that you really don't know what is going on with them. They could be restricting too or causing harm to themselves. It is better to look at the picture fast or not at all,  In the world we live in we are always competing. It is better to take care of yourself because there is only "you" and to move forward in your recovery. I read a book called "Life without Ed" by Jenni Schaefer. It's such a great book. She gives some give useful tips to tell ED to shh.  One thing I loved that she said was "to disagree with ED". Remember there is only "you" so please take care of yourself. If you need anymore help please reach out again or to NEDA for resources. 

sboggs33's picture

Sklarjennifer has some great points! Surround yourself with people who support you so you can run to them when your struggling. My fiancee is someone I go to for a little extra comfort and he usually helps me quiet that voice when it gets to hard for just me to handle. You may not completely be able to shield yourself from situations but make sure you talk with someone who is fully supportive after, either a text, phone call or hanging out. It does get easier, stay strong!! 

Kristine3's picture

I have the exact same reaction; we live in a society were weight loss is overly promoted and even obsessive to some degree, which is one of the major reasons why recovery is so hard. Everyone seems to talk about losing weight while I secretly have to gain/restore my own weight, so it doesn't seem fair.

My advice? Surround yourself with positive messages that keep you focused on your recovery. For example, I like to put up posters of positive affirmations and pro-recovery inspiration, only visit legit pro-recovery cites on the web (like this one!), volunteer with pro-recovery organizations, and overall just ignoring all of the diet/weight loss talk around me because I know that it is not healthy for me, or anyone for that matter.

Just stay focused on what you know is healthy for YOU! I know that is hard to do, but surrounding yourself with positive things helps a lot.

KaitTheGreat's picture

Hi there,

Thanks for the encouragement! I just finished an Intensive Outpatient Program and I am on my way to recovery! The hardest hurdle for me has been body image, and I agree with you that positive affirmations are a great way to keep myself grounded. I posted positive body-image quotes on my bathroom mirror, and I inform my boyfriend any time I body check, so I can be held accountable. I also stay away from magazines and I hardly ever watch television...I've got more important things to do, like loving myself and living a fulfilling life! <3

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